Now, I am not a new mother. I've always associated baby shower's as being a special gathering meant for first-timers in the mothering department. I do not judge those mother's who have had baby shower's for their second, third, or even fourth children, but I'm just stating what I thought baby shower's were intended for.
When I was pregnant with Broden, my second child, I was thrown a baby shower. I wasn't phased by the baby shower questions with him though, because he was mine and Kyle's first child together. We were still pretty new to the marriage boat, and having someone put together a baby shower for us (even though Kyle wasn't present for the shower, I still view it as something that was for the both of us) was very encouraging.
Here's a little background as to where we are at now:
- This little kidney bean will be Child #3 in our household.
- Kyle holds a full-time position as General Manager for a local lighting company.
- I am a full-time mom to my children, one of which I currently homeschool.
- We are not rolling in the dough, but we're not struggling either.
- Our health insurance does not cover anything prenatal. Even if the hospital has to perform certain procedures on me or the baby in the case of an emergency, everything comes out-of-pocket.
- We thought we were done having children once Broden was born. Therefore, we haven't hung on to much of anything (other than the port-a-crib and the highchair/booster seat, which come in handy when others with little ones come over for a visit).
- We are looking into taking out a loan to add another room onto our house within the next 6 months to a year to accommodate our growing family.
- We have reviewed our budget and are adjusting our spending habits accordingly.
- We fully intended to buy things for this baby as we can afford them, knowing that we would have to do without some things for a while, or even all together.
- I ate two Jimmy-John's #4 sandwiches with extra tomatoes this afternoon for lunch. I know...I disgust myself.
- I am currently reading a parenting book. The exact thing I used to roll my eyes at my mother about.
So, my question to you is: is it wrong of me to have a baby shower for the new kidlet?
I don't want to offend those who have mentioned attending or throwing me a baby shower, but then again, I don't want to come across as greedy.
What are your thoughts?